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The Sober Butterfly Podcast
Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage: Sophia Graniela on Healing, EFT, Ayahuasca & Turning Your Mess into Your Message
In this episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, Nadine Mulvina sits down with Sophia Graniela, an EFT practitioner, shadow work coach, and transformational guide, to explore the journey of healing from addiction, toxic relationships, and self-sabotage.
Sophia opens up about growing up in a chaotic environment shaped by alcoholism and mental health struggles, leading to her own battles with substance abuse and destructive patterns. She shares the pivotal moment at age 29 that led her to sobriety, self-discovery, and deep inner work, including her profound experiences with Ayahuasca and how it helped her break free from limiting beliefs.
We dive into:
✨ Why we cling to chaos, distractions, and unhealthy coping mechanisms
✨ The power of EFT tapping and shadow work in emotional healing
✨ How solo travel transformed Sophia’s sobriety and self-worth
✨ The importance of radical honesty and self-awareness in breaking toxic cycles
✨ Turning your mess into your message—how Sophia now helps women reconnect with their true selves
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Hello, hello and welcome to the Sober Butterfly Podcast. I am your host Nadine Mulvina, and today's episode is all about transformation. I'm so excited to bring in my guest today. We have Sophia who has spent the past couple of years doing some deep inner work to heal. Find purpose and now she's helping other women do the same as an EFT practitioner and shadow work coach. Sophia, I'm so excited to have you. Welcome to the pod. How are you?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Oh my gosh. Thank you so much for having me. I am doing really well, and I'm so excited to dive into this.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:I am too. And I was telling you backstage, my voice is a bit raspy because I was at the J Balvin concert last night, so forgive my like smoker's voice right now.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:I love it.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:I actually do love, but that's.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Oh my gosh, yes. When I used to party, I always had a raspy voice, so it brings me back to those days.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Exactly. It's bringing me way back. And I was the weird kid that like if someone lost their voice because they were sick, I was like, Ooh, I want that. Like, I don't know why. I just think it's so soulful and sexy. Anyway I would love to learn a little bit more about your story. You being on this beautiful journey of healing, but what did life look like before you made that decision to get sober and start doing that inner healing work?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yeah, absolutely. So really it started back all the way in my childhood. I grew up in a family where there was a lot of alcoholism, mental health struggles, substance abuse. Present. And from a very young age, I tried to shrink myself and fit in. I always thought that, you know, I wasn't good enough just because of a relationship that I had with my father, always trying to be that perfect daughter and be the overachiever, and always tried to hit these really high expectations. And when I got into middle school, I started getting bullied for my appearance. Then it was like really my mission in life to be loved and accepted and to just be good enough and to belong. And as soon as I got into middle school and then high school, I started to notice like all of the popular kids and what they were doing, and they were drinking and partying and. Doing all the things. And so I thought to myself, well, I wanna be loved and accepted, so I'm just going to do everything I possibly can to be included in their group. And so in high school, I pretty much let go of all the things that actually made me so happy, like music and sports and creativity. And I let everything go and just started to drink, started to experiment with drugs. When I was 15 years old, I went to my first music festival. When I felt that high, it was like, oh my gosh, I need this in my life. And it also gave me that false sense of confidence. I felt like when I drank and partied, I was like the cool girl and I was gonna be accepted, and I felt really, really good. And so basically from the time that I was 15 years old until I was 29 years old, it was just this cycle of self-sabotage, drinking and partying to not only numb. Emotions and pain, but to fit in, and it was in and out of toxic and abusive relationships. A really, really low sense of self-worth. I got myself into almost$20,000 of credit card debt just from partying and my bad habits, and I just always was running away from my life. It was like, how do I escape my reality? And so for 15 years of my life almost, it was pretty much living in chaos and just wondering, will life always feel this way? Because during the weeks I was hustling 60 hour weeks in corporate. On the outside, everything looked good, right? I had the friends, I had the fun, I had the, the job and the career. But inside I was so lost and disconnected from myself. I didn't know who I was outside of my party girl identity, and I just didn't know what I desired in life. And so. It was just basically living life on autopilot, not knowing who I was, hoping and wishing and praying for a better, healthier life. And then at 29 is when I basically decided this, this cannot be my life. Like staying where I am is scarier than the fear of the unknown.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Oh, so relatable. My God. Sophia, you mentioned some things that really touched me, even going back to being in adolescence, and it sounds to me like. Seeking something outside of yourself, like validation, external validation, whether that be from your peer group or from your parents even, like I can relate to so much of that, especially it sounds like perfectionist type. Behaviors, right? Like, if I'm gonna be my perfect self, then maybe that will deem me worthy of love or respect. And it's just reminding me of this idea that true love, like real authentic love and connections, like they don't need to necessarily be earned. And so, especially as a child, when you're seeking that approval, like that can easily spiral into different parts of your life. And so I connect so much deeply to that and then like identity, right? Finally, you know, being quote, accepted by the cool kids, but at the, detriment of you losing a sense of who you are and foregoing like your true passions and hobbies and interests, just so that you could like be this version of self that may not even be, your. Actual self or inner being, but it's just this idea of like masking, like we put these layers or we start to develop layers in a way to fit in, but also to protect ourselves. Like what were we drinking for? Like there was something pushing us and you mentioned this word escape, and I very much believe a big part of my drinking because we all drink for a reason. A big part of my drinking was escapism. And then when you're so deep in it, when you're in the throes of your partying or you're drinking or you're using or whatever, it makes it even harder sometimes to climb out or to see the light because it's just like, this is my normal, like this chaos. Like you mentioned, like chaos was my normal as well, so. Just so relatable. Thank you for sharing all of that. And then another thing that's interesting is in doing the show, like I meet so many people, especially women who get sober, right around 30. It sounds like you quit drinking at 29. So kind of talk, talk to us about what that point in your life look like. Would you say that you had like a quote, rock bottom, Sophia, or was it more like this is not sustainable anymore.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yeah, that's a really good question. I feel like it was kind of a bit of both. I always said to myself, I didn't have a rock bottom, but when I look back at it now, there was a moment that really was the turning point for me, and so I would consider that, you know, a rock bottom or just that moment of I am done. And so that was when I was 29 and I actually, I didn't quit drinking until 30, but I changed my life at 29. So basically I had just gotten out of a relationship that I thought was going to last a long time, and it was healthy at first, and then it turned toxic, which was a pattern in my life with all of my relationships. And I was in a very dark place in my life. I was drinking, partying, hiding a lot of my bad habits with my partner at that time. And. Everything kind of came to a head because I began to self-sabotage. I began to just like nitpick and cause fights because again, safe safety for me was chaos. When things were calm and I was in a relationship that felt healthy and good, it didn't feel safe because of my childhood and because of the chaos that was for me safe. So I would always create chaos even when something was going really well.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Oh my God. Because it's also like I'm waiting in that calm moment. I would think like when is. The shoe, like I want the control, so it's like I'm gonna shake shit up. Sorry to cut you off,
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Oh my gosh. No, because it's true. It's like sometimes, uh, we as women, we don't realize that we're creating this in our life because our nervous systems don't feel safe being in a relaxed state. Right? We grew up maybe around chaos or we had that during our adult years, and so we will literally create chaos in our own life, in our own relationship. And so we ended up breaking up, and I was just really in such a low state of just heartbreak drinking and partying to really numb the heartbreak that I was feeling. And I booked a flight out of the country because travel's one of my biggest passions. But at that point, I also used travel as an escape when I was drinking. And so I booked a flight to Mexico. I did a like. A month and a half solo trip. And for the first month I was just like in this cloud, this haze of like heartbreak. What am I doing? Who am I? Oh my gosh. And I had heard about Ayahuasca actually like years before, and it was something that really scared me at the time that I had heard about it. But on this trip, I thought to myself, you know what? I'm ready to go deep. I know that I'm ready to change my life. I know that I'm ready to become the woman who's confident and radiant and healthy, and just actually like prioritizes herself. I'm ready to rewrite my story. I'm so done living in this past identity that I no longer resonate with, and so I ended up at 29 going on my first Ayahuasca journey in Columbia. That experience also opened my eyes to just a path of just an incredible life if I were to stop drinking and using substances. And so it showed me the most beautiful journey and just energy and lights and nourishing relationships. And in that moment, I remembered at the end of the ceremony, I promised myself I was done using substances. I was done partying. I wasn't quite ready to fully let go of the drinking at that point because it already felt like such a heavy weight, just to say, you know what? Cold Turkey, I'm done going out on the weekends. I'm done using substances. And so I was like, okay, little by little. So in that moment I promised myself that. So I stopped using substances and from. February of 2023 to October of 2023, I was in this really big identity crisis. It was like all of a sudden I felt so much resistance in places that I used to enjoy so much. So I would try going out on the weekends with friends, and I would have this like deep heaviness on my heart of just I, I'm not meant to be here anymore. And I would come home and I would cry myself to sleep because it was such heavy energy. And I was so scared as well because I knew that if I stopped. Going out to those places, I would also stop spending time with these people. I would lose friends. And so it was this really big fear of judgment around friends. Like, what are they going to think about me? I'm gonna be boring now. I'm not gonna have people around me to support me. And I just felt so much resistance when I would go out, when I would spend time around certain people. And everything in the universe just kept saying to me, it was like this intuitive, knowing you are ready to evolve and expand. It was just like the soul, knowing that where I was was just no longer where I was meant to be, and I knew that I had to let go of things. It was going to be scary and difficult, but I had to sit through those moments of uncertainty and discomfort to completely change my life. And so in those six months is when I really started to prioritize myself. I started to go to Pilates and work out. I started to build really healthy habits. I started to distance myself from a lot of the toxic energy that was in my life. And then in October of 2023, I was already feeling so much better because I was so much healthier. My mindset was more positive, and I already started to really shift my identity at that point. But I ended up going to a music festival in Miami, and that night I ended up drinking way too much. Now, something about me is I'd never identified as an alcoholic. I was never codependent on alcohol. For me, it was more of a numbing mechanism, an escape, a way for me to, again, feel that sense of belonging. But that night in particular, I drank way too much. And I remember having this out of body experience where I looked at the girl that I was with one of my friends, and I said to her. I don't know why I'm even drinking anymore. It does not have any good effect. It's holding me back from truly unlocking my full potential. And I remember just being like angry and losing my keys. And it was again, that chaos. And in that moment I looked at her and I was like, this is the last night I'm gonna drink. It has no place in my life anymore. I need to completely change my life. And I was already going on that trajectory of like getting healthy and prioritizing myself and setting boundaries and doing the really hard things. And that was like the last missing puzzle piece for me. And it was in that moment, October 21st, 2023, I just said, I'm done. And since then. So much has shifted, like truly connecting to my purpose, building incredible friendships, becoming strong and healthy, and building confidence. And that's really how I actually came into starting my podcast and building my business is realizing like, wow, there's so many women out there that live so disconnected from themselves, chasing society's definition of success, doing what they think they quote unquote should be doing. They don't actually know what they desire, what they enjoy, what lights their soul on fire. And so through my journey, I've also turned my mess into my message because this is what I do now.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:and you do it so well. Oh my gosh. I loved hearing all parts of that. So I would love to actually kind of get into Ayahuasca because I think so many people have maybe fear. Around it, and I think it's the unknown,
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the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:I would love to hear what your experience was like, because I think with plant-based medicine or those spiritual. Ceremonies because this is something that has to be done in a setting where there's a professional and like there's someone that can guide you. I think so often, especially within the sober slash like recovery spaces, there's a bit of stigma there when it comes to the role of something like Ayahuasca in recovery or helping you unlock. Some of, or release, I should say, some of those, maybe trauma wounds or just things that we're carrying. So can you explain to us like what Ayahuasca is and like what it meant to you and how it helped you after that process or after that ceremony?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yeah, absolutely. So Ayahuasca is a plant medicine, and like you said, there is a really big stigma around it, especially if you are in recovery. it's a plant medicine. it's derived from DMT, it's essentially, it's like a psychedelic, it also opens your heart. It really helps with compassion and it can bring up a lot of past. Traumas as well. So I think that's where the fear comes in, is if you are not ready to face. Your those emotions and the traumas and the things that come up. It can be a really, really dark experience. And so I always like to say this, but Ayahuasca will find you when you're ready and it sounds kind of crazy, but you will know. You'll have like this intuitive knowing. Okay, I'm ready to go deeper. I'm ready for this medicine because I don't recommend Ayahuasca to everyone. I do believe that you have to be in a certain space in your life where you are just so ready to get out of where you are and you are ready to actually take a line to action. Because Ayahuasca now is kind of glamorized. I hate to say that, but it's, it's one of those things that everyone talks about now and. one of my friends told me that they booked an Ayahuasca experience on Airbnb experiences, and that's just not what you wanna do for Ayahuasca. Okay, everyone, like, for anyone that's listening, you want to make sure that it's a safe and sacred place. I went to, I've done it twice now. Once in Guatemala, once in Columbia, and you wanna make sure that you're sitting with people that you trust. That has the shamans where this comes from generations, right? Like their abuelas and their ancestors have been doing it for years and years because this is something where you wanna be held in a space where you can fully go into your experience because emotions are going to come up
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Right.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:granted, everyone has a different experience. So I can really only talk about mine, but for me it really gave me a lot of information and a lot of messages. And so I didn't really. See anything. Some people have a really visual experience. I did have kind of a visual in terms of like messages came through and I saw like some visuals, but I never got into like a really dark trip.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Got it.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:for me it was just like a lot of, lot about my life path. Like it really showed me two different paths when I, if I continued partying, if I continued doing what I was doing versus if I were to get sober and really change my life, like. Everything that would be a part of my, my new reality. And so there's a lot of like wisdom that came through. I also learned a lot about my father because him and I had a difficult relationship growing up and it really gave me like such a deep sense of compassion for my father, that he did the best he could with what he had access to, right. As a father Ayahuasca is just such a great way to really reconnect with parts of yourself, so again, you have to be ready for it because I have had other friends that have done it that did have a really difficult experience. However, you can take all of the experience and then take it and then transform your life. Because the dark experiences are going to teach you something about yourself. So I really would recommend researching places before you book your experience, talk to other people that have done an ayahuasca journey before. Ask them about their experience and really set an intention before you go on the journey. What is it that you, yeah, what is it that you wanna get out of the experience? Because to be honest, when I went on my Ayahuasca journey, I didn't even. Talk about sobriety. There was 21 other strangers there and we sat in a circle the first night to talk about our intentions. And my intention was a lot to do with childhood family trauma healing from my heartbreak'cause I had just gotten out of that relationship. But I still had a really deep sense of shame because of my drinking and my partying that I didn't even talk about that. when I journaled in my notebook, when I got there, I said I need to party less. Because I was so scared of letting go of that identity. I was so scared of creating a life outside of what I had grown so comfortable with for 15 years of my life. And so even though like that was definitely an intention of mine, I got. Exactly what I needed from the experience. And that's the other thing with ayahuasca, it's going to give you what you need and what you can handle. So if you go the first time and you don't have that big, big breakthrough that you're hoping or wanting, it might give you other little pieces that you need to actually handle and conquer first before it can give you what you actually really, really need. So some people have to go back and do an experience again and. thing I wanna mention is ayahuasca is not some magic medicine that's gonna cure you and change your life. It'll give you what you need, and then you have to take that information, that wisdom, whatever you got from it, and apply it to your life. Because I see so many people going again and again and again, and not having any change in their life because they're expecting the medicine to. To work its magic and change their life. as humans have to take responsibility and take all of the things that we learned and actually apply it to our reality. So if it's about sobriety or if it's about getting healthy, what is it that you can do today to get one step closer to that reality?
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:I love that so much, and even the piece around action in relation to sobriety. It's like sobriety. Is not a magic pill that's going to fix every aspect of your life. Like you still have to act and you still have to do the work. I have one quick little anecdote, I'll make this short, but similar to you, I used travel as a form of escape as well, and I as well went to Mexico. I went to Tulum and I was partying for the first like six weeks I was there and I was really in a dark place. Heartbreak, heartache, all of that. And then I moved to Mexico City on a whim and in Mexico City I met this woman who, she was the marketing manager for a shaman who ran ayahuasca ceremonies. I met her randomly at a dinner party and she was a hoot. We had a great time. We're chatting, she's like telling me all of the amazing benefits of ayahuasca, and then I go out into the balcony to like hit a joint and she joins me. The next thing you know, she just falls out like collapses
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Oh
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:on the floor. And the host of the party came up to me and was like, what is in this? And I'm like, it is just marijuana. Like, I have no idea why she fainted. And he's like, actually, like she's, and then he alluded to the fact that she was like, unstable. So that deterred me, I'm not gonna lie to you, Sophia, because I was so like. Invested in this idea of doing ayahuasca, but then the person that was selling me the idea fainted, I was kind of like, eh, I don't know. But I did feel a calling, actually. I think I've sort of hit like a, if I'm being honest, like a, a block of some sort. Like I'm in therapy, I'm sober. I've been doing the work for years now, but I do think that I might need a little bit more help. And so that's why I was just about like your experiences with Ayahuasca because I do think that there's more under the surface that I would like to excavate and get into some of the childhood wounds and trauma that I know I'm still carrying with me.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yeah, and I think that's what ayahuasca is so beautiful for. I, you know, I also, I also hear people talking about ayahuasca and like. Kind of a negative light of you don't need that to heal and like No, you absolutely don't. You can do all the healing on your own. You can do inner child's work and shadow work and all the things. ayahuasca is a really great way, like you said, to go even deeper into the subconscious, into our childhood traumas, into the things that have made us. Us.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Right.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:it's just a really great tool. And of course when you go with an open mind, that's the other thing is you really need to surrender to the medicine. You can't have any expectations of what you're gonna get from the experience. And I think a lot of times as humans in general, we try to control outcomes. We wanna know what's gonna happen. We're like, we want all the answers. But with ayahuasca. The only way you're going to have a good experience is if you go completely open mind surrender and just trust that you're going to get what it is that you need from it. And
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Mm-hmm.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:understand why you had kind of a bad taste in your mouth from that experience with that woman because you're always going to hear people talk badly about any type of bad experience that they've had, right? They're going to highlight that. But I also think that. Trust your intuition and whatever's coming for you. And if it's calling to you, trust that because there are so many incredible places that you can go for your first journey and you can learn a lot about yourself. It's really incredible.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:I love that. One final question around Ayahuasca. You mentioned earlier that you don't necessarily recommend it for everyone. Can you elaborate a little bit more in terms of like who would be maybe a good candidate? Well, we kind of touched on that, but like who would you say maybe you are not ready to experiment or try this plant medicine?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yeah, that's a great question. So the first thing that really comes to mind is if you're on antidepressants. Or you're using any type of like, really heavy prescription medicine,
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Mm-hmm.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:consult a doctor first and foremost, because a lot of those prescription drugs have really bad counter interactions with ayahuasca.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Okay.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:deadly. So you wanna really do your research before you go on a journey and just make sure that you actually follow the protocol that they give you before the journey. So a lot of times they'll tell you like, limit sugar, you can't eat meat. There's a lot of things that you have to follow and. Essentially live like a clean lifestyle so your body's an open vessel for when you take the medicine. So I would say if you are on any of those types of prescription medicines, just really do your research and talk to your doctor before you do. And then I would say if you have not even done any type of healing work or you're not really self-aware, and I think. Yeah, you just, you really wanna be self-aware. You want to have that intention. You wanna be going with good intentions. You
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:It.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:go to Ayahuasca expecting that. It's going to fix your life and solve all your problems.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Right.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:takes someone who's already invested in themselves that's like, okay, I'm ready to do this work. I'm ready to change my life. Nothing is stopping me, and Ayahuasca is just going to be a tool that's going to help you. Almost like accelerate because you're going to go deep in a matter of 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 days, whatever, you know the amount of time of your journey is, and it'll just give you even more information that you can use to propel your journey ahead. But if you're just like going to just, this is just gonna change my life and solve all my problems, you're gonna be disappointed.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:And I think the inner knowing piece, like if you feel called to something I, like I knew before I was ready to admit
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Mm-hmm.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:was limiting me. Right. I felt that nudge the tug, the urge. And when I finally surrendered, I was able to really see the beauty and benefits of a sober life. And it sounds like too, like surrendering to the plant medicine, surrendering to, your understanding of self and knowing when you're ready is also a key component to this. So thank you for sharing all of that, Sophia.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yeah.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:And so now take us back You're Advent Music Fest and you turn to your friend and were just like, I don't even understand why I'm still drinking.
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the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:You're really working on becoming the best version of self and now you've removed that final piece, so what did life look like or how did it change for you from that point on?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yeah, absolutely. So October of 2023, it was wild because again, it was six months after my Ayahuasca experience and I just, I was already doing so much and I was ready to transform my life. And it was in that moment when I looked at my friend and I said, alcohol no longer has a place in my journey. It just, it no longer serves me. was in that moment that it was literally an identity shift because in that moment, I made a anchored decision that I was no longer going to drink. Nothing was gonna stop me. I was going to become the healthiest, most radiant, alive version of myself. Like I was going to reconnect with my passions, connect with my purpose, make an impact in the world, and truly come home to myself. And that's why I named my podcast Her Journey Home because. The last two years have been such a journey back home to me. What is it that I desire in this world? How do I want to feel every day of my life? How do I want other women and people to feel? How do I want the world around me to look right? Because for so long I lived in such a negative. My perspective was always very negative because of how I felt. I didn't treat myself with love and respect, and so when I decided to get fully sober and stop drinking, it was just such a catalyst for all of the growth in my life. I started my business, I launched my podcast. I've made incredible, nourishing, deep friendships. changed the way that I date and look at. You know, partners, it's changed my finances, my family relationships. Like I got so much closer with my mom and my dad and my brother because you're no longer living life in a fog. In a haze. like so much of my life was just chasing the next thing. It was like, okay, I'm gonna work Monday through Friday, and then by Thursday it was already like, what are the plans? And then Monday would come around and I'd be nursing a hangover for the entire week. And then. Right. Again, how do I escape this? And so life was always just about how do I escape my reality? How can I have fun and not have to think about what I actually have to do in my life? And now it's like, no, I wanna create a life that is so fulfilling and rich and purpose driven. That's. So alive and incredible that I no longer need to escape my reality, and I don't need to rely on alcohol or substances or anything to have fun anymore because when you become whole on your own and you fill that internal void and you cultivate a deep sense of self worth and self love, alcohol does. Literally become irrelevant. Like in a situation like mine where I was not codependent on alcohol, obviously everyone is different. For me, it was more about that self-worth. It was more about I never felt worthy as a human. Like we all are, we're already inherently worthy just the way that we are. But I constantly, like you said in the beginning of the episode, searching for external validation. And so when I decided to get sober, it was like all the things that I was searching for, I just gave them to myself. I became my own source of validation. I went on this love, like self-love healing journey, and now it's like because I'm so healthy and because I actually love my life, I don't need anything outside of myself to bring me joy.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:One of my favorite quotes, it reminds me of what you just shared. Give yourself the love that you seek, and I think that is just so true because it's. Very easy to spiral and think that you are undeserving and unworthy, no, you just being here is enough.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Mm-hmm.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:That's a great reminder for me and for people listening at home. Also, it's just like when you start to actually do the work and as you mentioned, pour into yourself, you're calibrating on a higher frequency like your energy. Is just vibrating up here like higher. And so you're attracting, I believe, better relationships in terms of quality or the things that you deserve in life are being drawn to you because you are giving off or omitting this positive energy. And so I love that you're doing all of this work and continue to do that. And not just do it, but like share this message like what you mentioned before, turn your mess into your message.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yes.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:that. Because we are not living in a silo. Like so many people I think stay stuck in these negative. Patterns or turn to negative coping devices because they feel like they are alone and they cannot share or they don't hear their stories in other people. So thank you for doing that work, Sophia, and sharing with my audience today and on your platform as well.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Thank you.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:I know that you also work with EFT,
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yes.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:I was just wondering how e ft can help. Rewire the brain and help people with building healthier coping mechanisms. So can you get into EFT and also like I know that you work with shadow work as well, so these are terms I feel like get thrown around a lot, but what do they actually mean and how do they help your clients or people in general?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:I love this so much. So EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. And this modality has quite literally helped me build confidence, rewire subconscious beliefs. And it's one of the most powerful tools in my opinion. So it actually stems back from ancient Chinese medicine and it's essentially, if you can kind of, I like to think of it as acupuncture, but without the needles. Because we're tapping on the meridians, which is the side of the hand above the eyebrows side of the eyebrows, under the eyes, upper lip, chin, and on top of the head. And so when we're actually tapping on those meridian points, it's allowing us to move any stagnant energy. us to actually move energy through our bodies and to release what is no longer serving us. And when we're actually doing the EFT tapping, we start with the negative, which a lot of times people don't understand why do we start with the negative beliefs or the fears or whatever's coming up for us? And the reason we start with the negative is to actually honor, accept, and acknowledge the negative first. if you think about like dirt on the floor, you wanna first like acknowledge that it's there and then you start to sweep it away. And so once you do a round with the negative, that's when you start to tap on the reinforcing positive statement. And so EFT is actually such a beautiful blend of somatics, which is moving energy from the body, but also cognitive psychology, which is where we're actually rewiring the beliefs. And so it's a really incredible modality for really just nervous system regulation. It really helps with nervous system regulation. I love to do it. Even if, let's say you're in the back of an Uber and you're feeling like stressed or angry or whatever the, the feeling is in your body. You just do some tapping, it'll immediately take you down a notch. Like it's so incredible. It's also amazing for, like I said, rewiring, limiting beliefs. And then it's also great for moving energy around. So if you're feeling those fears, if you're feeling like, oh my gosh, like I'm so scared of, maybe it's losing friends or judgment or whatever it is on your journey, tapping is also such a great way to reinforce new positive beliefs as well. And so yeah, EFT. Absolutely incredible. I also love it because it's not something that takes a really long time. You can literally tap five to 10 minutes in the mornings, in the evenings, during the day. You don't have to be in a place that's like, no distractions, quiet like you would, let's say a meditation. I.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Mm-hmm.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:And so it's really, really powerful. And I actually have created, it's called Her Journey Home Collective. It's my free community and I have over 15 recorded tapping sessions, shadow work prompts. So if you wanna come into the group, it's an incredible way just to, like I said, start your day, start your week. I tap every single day and it's truly allowed me to. Step into confidence. I've gotten through my fear of being seen, showing up on social media, showing my face, speaking on camera, like it's such a great way to help you navigate whatever it is that you're currently going through in your life.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:And I saw on your story yesterday, you did a tapping exercise. I thought it was beautiful. I'm wondering for example, if you are feeling anxious or if you're feeling, I don't know, upset about something with the tapping, like should you pinpoint a specific area or in general, is it just the act of tapping that helps? It doesn't matter necessarily the location.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:That's a great question. So both of those are actually accurate. So even if you're just tapping and talking. You're still going to feel the benefits. It's going to help you move the energy. However, if you have a specific emotion or feeling that's coming up, it's really helpful to pinpoint it. And a lot of times in my client sessions we'll actually dig and try to get to the root of where that feeling or emotion is coming from to begin with.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Okay.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:start at the surface, like if they're feeling, let's say, angry, and then we get below it and it's like, is this a familiar feeling? Have you felt this before? Does this stem from a childhood memory? And so really the purpose of tapping, especially when you're doing it with a coach, is getting to the root of where this is coming from so that you can clear it versus if you're just tapping on the anger, yes, it'll help you move it. In that moment, you will probably yawn, you might get teary-eyed. These are all signs that you are moving the energy through your body, but it won't necessarily actually get to the root, which is really the goal in a client session. I.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Okay. Got it. that's impactful. Now shadow work, does that help release emotions as well, or is that related to something else?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Yes. Oh my gosh. Okay. So Shadow work has also been such a powerful tool on my healing journey. And for other women, it's essentially taking the parts of yourself, the unconscious parts, and bringing them back in. Into the lights and integrating them into your life. So what this means is, let's say are parts of yourself that you have been suppressing or running away from your whole life. So maybe you are. suppressing anger from childhood or you're suppressing shame or some, a piece of yourself, and then it ends up manifesting into your life even though you don't want to, you're trying to hide it. You're trying to run away from it because it's deemed socially unacceptable. I. And the interesting thing about shadow work is there's actually dark shadows, which is, you know, the dark, non accepted qualities, but there's also something called golden shadows. And golden shadows are actually things that are accepted by society, but that you may have felt shamed for in childhood. One example of this is you might be really intelligent, but your entire life you've tried to kind of dim down your intelligence because maybe in elementary school you were called the teacher's pet. And so from a young age, you're like, oh my gosh, if I raise my hand, if I participate, if I speak my truth and I show how intelligent I am, I'm going to be rejected. I'm not going to be given love or acceptance. And so you start to actually run away from these beautiful qualities. Same thing goes for beauty and, success and all of that, they're all golden shadows. And so a lot of times we end up running away from who we authentically are. And so shadow work allows you to take all of those pieces that you didn't accept about yourself and integrate them into your reality to become more whole.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Okay. how, like what is the, I guess like mode that people are able to work through accepting parts of themselves that they've been suppressing for so long?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Definitely. So there's actually a couple of ways. What I usually walk my clients through is called a shadow shift process, and this is where they will actually, sit. With their shadow self. So essentially it's almost like a meditation. So we drop them in, they are in a beautiful meadow. They actually sit down and they're facing their shadow self. So whatever that is, maybe it's the angry part. Maybe it's the greedy part, maybe it's the whatever that dark shadow is or the golden shadow, and they actually start to ask questions to their shadow part. What is your purpose? What are you trying to keep me safe from? And a lot of times that's, you know, that fear of rejection or feeling unloved or not accepted and they start to ask questions to that part of themselves. And so by the end of the shadow shift process, they then have that awareness and understand why it's there to be begin with.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:I see.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:So once they actually understand it, they're able to give that part of themselves love and compassion, and they can start to actually integrate those pieces into their reality. So a lot of times like one of my shadows for me was the not feeling good enough, not feeling qualified enough. And so I was always hiding. I was never showing up in social media a couple years ago. Like, it was very scary for me to be goofy and show my full personality because if I did that. It meant I was going to be rejected and not loved. And so slowly but surely I started to show up on camera. I started to speak to the camera. I started to dance on videos. I started to bring more of my authentic personality out. And so when you start to like integrate the pieces, it then starts to become easier and easier. But you, again, like we said before, aligned action, you have to actually start taking the steps, but. We never want to dysregulate the nervous system. So it's not like you figure out your shadows and all of a sudden you just go full throttle and do all the things that you were really scared to do. It's like little by little you start to integrate the pieces and you start to just love and accept all of the parts of yourself, which then adds to your life.
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the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Do you watch White Lotus by chance?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:You know, I actually never got into it, but everyone keeps saying that, so I think I need to.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Season three is out right now, and there's one last episode. And these are very complex characters. Okay. I don't even wanna ruin it for people who may not be caught up to date, but let's just say there are some characters, and I bring this up in terms of more of the negative, I guess, shadows that may exist within us, because I do think that we have dualities, right? Like the what about the ugly? What if someone, for example, has a really like. Socially unacceptable shadow for good reason, because it may be a detriment to someone else and their safety. So what if someone is really like suffering? Maybe from that shadow, but also like it's not good for them to accept it or embrace it because it could be harmful to them or to other people. Is there anything. That we can do in regards to that. Like to acknowledge that this exists, but at the same time, like not necessarily give it space to actually thrive. Does that make sense?
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:absolutely. I think if there's a situation like that where it's actually unsafe, we would definitely acknowledge it. And a lot of times in my sessions we use somatic, so we'll do just like a lot of movement.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Okay.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:them to bring out whatever that is, the anger or. Whatever it is that they're feeling and will allow them to actually process the emotions and move through them. But you don't have to integrate every single shadow because there are going to be some things that may genuinely be unsafe, but it's still really important to be aware of them so that way it doesn't manifest in a really negative light or even bring more unsafety into their life.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:That makes a lot of sense. Okay. That was, that's what I thought, but I.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:Absolutely.
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:Be, remain in the dark, but like, not even remain in the dark, like you're bringing the light to it so that you can acknowledge it, but then at the same time, like you can maybe release it or find ways to cope in a healthier way to where,
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:That's the other thing I was going to mention is like finding healthier coping mechanisms and also still giving themselves compassion for
the-sober-butterfly_2_03-31-2025_123705:mm-hmm.
sophia_2_03-31-2025_123705:shadow. Because I think a lot of times when we are like so harsh and critical of ourselves and we judge ourselves, that's when those actually manifest in ways that we don't want them to manifest. And so when we can at least bring awareness and love and compassion and still know like, okay. This might not be safe to actually like integrate and bring in, but we can still work through it. We can still process the emotions around it so that it's not harming us even further.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Just have one more question related to this cycle of self sabotage that we so often can find ourselves in what is, or what do you believe is the first step that someone can take to start breaking free from their self sabotaging tendencies?
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yes. It's always so hard to say, like every time I say it, I'm just like, oh my gosh.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yes.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yeah. So honestly, the first step that I tell anyone on their healing journey and to break free from self-sabotage is awareness. It's really looking at, okay, where am I avoiding feeling? Some type of pain or emotion. So for example, a lot of times I see women procrastinating on their dreams. This was a big one for me. It was like anytime I wanted to do something that I genuinely desired, I would just freeze and not do anything. Not take action. And I see so many women doing this, and it's because under, underneath everything, there's a fear. Maybe it's a fear of failure. Maybe it's a fear of rejection or judgment, or even a fear of. Success is a big one that people don't even realize they have. And so the very first step is to get aware, okay, am I procrastinating? Am I avoiding by drinking or constantly trying to escape? Am I trying to. Be perfect. Perfectionism is another form of self-sabotage. It's like, where are you waiting to put something out there because you feel like it's just not good enough and every single thing has to be perfect. And then from there, once you're aware of what your self-sabotaging pattern is, and there's tons of them, it's then becoming aware of, okay, what am I actually scared of? What is this underlying fear here? And then you start to work with the fears, and that's where we start to do the EFT tapping. We start to do the shadow shift process. We start to do subconscious rewiring and all of the things. But the very first step is that awareness, because if you're walking around life with blinders on, I like to say it's you're gonna continue in these patterns. And it's not until you actually become aware and understand why they're happening in the first place, that you can then begin to shift your reality. I.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yeah. I agree. I think awareness, I frame it as honesty because I do think so much of it's like connected to intuitive knowing. Like I think so often we know that there's something amiss so that we want to change something. Maybe we need to get more intentional around discovering what is driving some of those feelings or. avoiding certain things, but I, I genuinely believe that we often know sometimes, and it's just a matter of acting and, and doing the work. To your point earlier, so love the awareness piece and I think it relates to many facets of life, not just connected to sobriety or even healing, just many things. It's like you need to act if you want to actually change and
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:And.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:you have to be aware.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yes, yes. And oh my gosh, I didn't mean to cut you off, but you said something earlier about honesty and I think being really, really honest with ourselves,
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Right,
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:to say radical honesty because a lot of times we are the reason for our own suffering,
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:right.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:we continue to put ourselves in negative environments surrounding ourselves with negative. People engaging in unhealthy coping mechanisms and habits. And at the end of the day, in order to truly start to shift your reality and change your identity and become the healthiest version of yourself, you have to be willing to really take a step back, zoom out on your life, look in the mirror and say, okay, where am my life? Am I not showing up for myself? Where in my life am I? Allowing people into my space that don't deserve to be there.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Right
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:I not acting as that highest version of myself? And this could be so many things. It could be drinking alcohol and partying. It could be overeating and sugar, right? I leaned on sugar after I stopped drinking because it was like one thing to the next thing.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:object.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:so that's something, yeah, that's something that I've been working on is no, like that's still a form of numbing and avoidance. And so it's really about just. Getting so radically honest with yourself about what is no longer serving you, what needs to stay where it is in order for you to grow and become the woman that's already within you.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:When you are radically honest, you are aware and you can no longer delude yourself into believing that you're always maybe a victim, because I do think so often it's easy to stay stuck in that victim mentality, especially if you've had, I. Issues from childhood or trauma from your past life show up. Your trauma may not have been your fault, but it is your responsibility. And I think once you take autonomy over the fact that this is my life and I'm responsible for orchestrating the best version of life that I see fit, then you can actually find some, I think peace in that, but also. Power
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yeah.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:same time. So thank you for sharing that because I think, yeah, to your point, the radical honesty piece is super important, but also being kind to yourself and acknowledging that not everything is your fault, but at the same time, we need to take responsibility for our own lives and our own destiny.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yeah. I'm glad you said that too, because I think a lot of times people confuse radical honesty with like being super judgmental with themselves,
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:critical.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:being honest without judgment and knowing you did the best you could at that point in time in your life.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yeah.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:honesty in the sense of, okay, I. This is not working for me. If I continue doing this, I'm not going to be able to step into the woman that I know I desire to step into and these things are holding me back, but knowing, okay, it's okay. Like I did these things in the past, it, my past does not define me.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Right.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:my story at any time and give yourself, like you said, that love and compassion, it's so important.
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the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:I know that you mentioned earlier that you're a big advocate for solo travel, which I am too. I think I'm there for women, especially Sophia. Like my friends think I'm crazy. They think they're, I'm absolutely insane that I love to take solo trips and I'm like, I think it's insane that you don't. Go anywhere by yourself, but I digress. Anyway, I would love to learn from you, how has traveling alone played a role in your healing journey? I know that you mentioned that you took that trip to Mexico, which led you to that ayahuasca experience in Columbia. But in general, how has travel really aided with your overall healing journey?
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:Oh my gosh. I love this question so much because travel has truly changed my life in so many ways. It's my biggest passion. I always tell women, you have to go on at least one solo trip to learn so much about yourself and the world around you. I. My first ever solo trip was in 2013. I traveled to an orphanage in Ghana
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Wow.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:that trip shifted so much inside of me. It was like such a perspective shift. I realized that the things that we complain about here, like are just not that important, and I realized in that moment what gratitude truly was. And so when I got home, I just realized like. I wanna see the world. I wanna help more people. I wanna make an impact, but also grateful every single day for what we have and just knowing that you can literally go somewhere else in the world and realize how much, like the differences in culture, the differences in religion, how people are like, when I got to Ghana, the people were so happy and so friendly with barely anything.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Mm-hmm.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:so it just goes to show that sure, like material possessions and all the things that we have here in America. I'm not saying they're necessarily bad, right, to each their own, but you should find that happiness within yourself
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yeah.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:anything else. Like your external circumstances should not dictate how you feel about yourself.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Right.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:that trip taught me that. It was like, wow, I actually, it doesn't matter if I have the newest iPhone. It doesn't matter if I have the designer bags. It doesn't matter about any of that. It's like. Who am I as a human? And so that trip shifted so much for me, and I knew in that moment I had to see the world. So now I've been to 25 countries and I've done a lot of solo travel. And honestly, it really allows you to. Confront parts of yourself. So like anytime I travel now I learn about what I like, what I don't like. I learn how to navigate challenges. Like when you're in a new place where you can't speak the language and you can't fully communicate with other people, you learn to become resourceful. I. You learn to figure out how to get to your Airbnb. You learn about how to start speaking, let's say Spanish. You learn how to read menus and it, they sound so silly, but truly it, it really gives you the sense of like confidence and resilience. solo travel is also, you meet so many incredible open-minded people from. All walks of life, like if you want to become open-minded, just start traveling because, just because what you learned is the right way. Just because you grew up in a certain religion or culture, it's so important to immerse yourself in other cultures. Because a firm believer there's no right way with anything.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Right.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:like so many people grow up believing these certain things, and then you meet people from other walks of life and you. You're like, wow, like that really expanded me. I wanna learn more about this. You get to try new foods, you get to see new places, and it's just, it's truly just an experience that's hard to put into words until you actually go and do it yourself. But I recommend any woman on her healing journey to go somewhere where you're feeling like that intuitive soul calling, because there's probably something there for you like. Anytime I've ever traveled, especially now that I'm sober, I go with some type of an intention and it is the most healing, powerful experience and I just recommend everyone in their lifetime to go on a solo trip because you will truly learn so much about yourself.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:Going back to what you mentioned too about feeling called to places I've been called to so many places and have magical, like, truly transcendental experiences because something was pulling me there. And I feel like that's a theme for this episode. Like when you're being called to do something or like go somewhere. It, it's for a reason. So I would tell people to lean in and not shy away from. Seeing a place or going somewhere solely because you are afraid of going by yourself. I think you're in sometimes the best company with yourself, and I often wonder if people think like, I don't know, like, are they afraid of being by themself?
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:Oh my gosh, I could not agree with you more. It's really one of those, like, you step outta your comfort zone. You're not using anyone or anything as a crutch, especially like sober travel. It's like you really are putting yourself out there. You're, you know, going to different experiences. You're meeting new people, you're really stepping outta your comfort zone, and it's such a great way to also build confidence, because like I said, you're navigating the unknown sometimes and you just, you get to shift your perspectives and it's so refreshing.
the-sober-butterfly_3_03-31-2025_132150:What's the biggest shift from solo travel or just travel in general? Sober versus before? The before times I.
sophia_3_03-31-2025_132150:Yeah, so like I said, I used travel a lot to escape before, so it was like I was going through a heartbreak book, a flight I was going to party like for spring break. There were some trips like I did Africa, I volunteered, and that was not a party trip. But even so, I was always looking to drink. On most of my trips, it was like with friends and it was always like, okay, how can we, what can we do on the weekends? And it was always partying. And so a lot of times when I was drinking and traveling, I would sleep. The days away I would be nursing a hangover. I was not fully present. I wasn't doing a lot of the nourishing experiences that I do now because of my hangovers. And so still most of my travel, minus a couple of trips, were very much focused on. The next drink. And so it just took away from what travel is actually about, which is like immersing yourself in the culture and learning about the culture and meeting new people because my focus was always about. What's the next thing I'm gonna do? And so now, like you said, it's a lot more intentional. I'm present, I'm clearheaded. I have energy. I wake up early in the mornings and make the most outta my days. Like I get to eat incredible food. I've met incredible people. It's completely shifted the way I travel. And so I'm super grateful because now I see the world. I always like to say I see the world in full color now because you're so aware.
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the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:All right guys. Welcome back to the Sober Butterfly. I still have Sophia here and I would love to play a little game. Let's have some fun. Sophia, it's a, this or that game healing edition.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:Oh, I
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:Are you Okay, great. Your game. Love it. Um, I'm gonna throw out two options for you and you just have to pick one. I don't want you to overthink. Are you ready?
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:I'm ready. Let's go.
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:Okay. My first question for you, solo trip to Bali or a sober retreat in Costa Rica.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:Uh, solo trip to Bali
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:I would pick the same, shadow work with a coach or doing it solo.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:Shadow. Work with a coach, a hundred percent.
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:Love that I can see why now from this episode. My next one for you is a weekend wellness retreat or a spontaneous solo road trip.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:Ooh, this is a hard one. I would say the first one, this time,
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:Okay. Weekend wellness retreat.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:wellness retreat. Yeah.
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:Um, breaking up with a toxic partner or quitting alcohol. This is a hard one.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:I am like, gosh, those are tied. I would say, oh my goodness, I have to pick one of these. I mean, they're both, they're both equal. I would honestly say breaking up with a toxic partner because once you break up with them, then you probably will start looking at your relationship with alcohol. I.
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:Yeah, exactly like the glow up really happens after you ditch that toxic partner.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:I had to get outta my toxic relationships before I decided to get sober. So that's just like my path. But both of them,
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:I, I agree. I agree. Okay. My last one for you is Morning, EFT Tapping or nighttime shadow work.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:morning, EFT Tapping.
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:'cause it sets the tone for your day, I imagine. Yeah.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:thing.
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:I love what, well, thank you for playing this or that healing edition. Sophia, this has been such an incredible convo. Before we wrap up, I wanted to know where people can find you if they wanna work with you or follow your healing journey.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:Yes, absolutely. Well, first off, thank you so much for having me. I'm so grateful. This was an incredible conversation. If you wanna connect with me, I have my podcast, which is called Her Journey Home, and my Instagram is at her Journey Home Pod. You can also reach me on my Instagram, which is at Sophia Granola. I'm sure that you will link it in the show notes. And I have my free community called Her Journey Home Collective, where we have the EFT toppings and 20 other incredible women that you can connect with that are also on their healing journeys. And I'm also right now offering a 90 day program called The Journey Home, which is where we will actually help you to step into your new identity, become the most confident, glowing, healthy version of yourself. We will help you to rewire limiting beliefs. We will reconnect you with your passions and your purpose and truly step into the woman that is just magnetic. And this is what I want for every woman to build a life that is so rich with self-worth, purpose, adventure, where alcohol and other self-sabotaging behaviors become irrelevant. So if you're interested in going deeper, the deep work, I also offer one-off EFT tapping sessions to help you to unlock your true potential. So I have lots of ways to work with me, but go ahead and just DM me on Instagram and we can talk about what works best for you.
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:Thank you and I will link all of that in the show notes, guys, to make it super easy to find. Finally, Sophia, if you could leave us with one piece of advice for breaking free from Toxic Cycles and stepping into said power, what would it be?
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:Ooh, yes. So the first thing I wanna say is you have the power within you. It is never too late to rewrite your story. Your past, as I mentioned earlier, does not define you. You are not your habits. You are not your feelings. You are not your past mistakes. You can take all of your past and turn it into gold. You can take all of the challenging times and take that and turn it into golden nuggets and wisdom and lessons to shape your reality. So just because you have been through something that is really, really difficult, you can use that to literally transform your life. Like I said, your mess can become your message. So just remember nothing outside of you can change your reality. You have the power within you.
the-sober-butterfly_4_03-31-2025_133718:Your mess can become your message. Thank you so much for sharing everything today with us Sophia.
sophia_4_03-31-2025_133718:Thank you so much for having me on. I am so, so excited to hear this back.
the-sober-butterfly_13_04-03-2025_055607:Sophia's story is such a testament to what's possible when you stop looking for validation outside of yourself and start doing the inner work, whether that's EFT, tapping, shadow work, solo travel, or simply getting radically honest with yourself. Healing is always available to you. If this episode resonated with you, here's how you can keep the convo going. Watch the full episode on YouTube, subscribe. Drop a comment with your biggest takeaway. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify. It seriously helps more people find this show. Follow at the Period Sober Butterfly or Sober Butterfly podcast on Instagram and share this episode with someone who needs it. And check out Sophia's podcast, her journey home for more wisdom on healing and self-discovery. Everything is linked below in the show notes. That's all I have for you guys today. Until next Friday, keep growing, keep healing, and keep flying butterflies. I love you guys. Bye bye.